IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL.
This very well should be the basis of life, but alas... Social media has become the platform for negative rhetoric and ripping on people. I'm all for giving your buddies a hard time, and love to get the heat and give the heat. Trust me, I'm the punching bag a lot of the time, and take pride in my spot in the crew. Haha, seriously though, you should be able to laugh at yourself, and I believe that whole heartedly. What I don't believe in, and that I'm quite against, is putting people down for doing what they do. Hobbies, work, sports, religion, or lack of any of them. It frustrates the hell out of me.
STOP IT!
Why does it bother me so bad? Because you're a freaking Dream wrecker! I can't tell you how many people in my life have said things to me about the path I've chosen, the work I'm doing or have done, the people I spend time with, the people I dated, for not associating with a religion, for now being involved in the religion of my choosing, the cars I have driven, the purchases I've made, the posts I've done, my political stance, for everything in my life really. The truth is, someone is always going to have an opinion about what you do. It's stupid, but it's pretty much just not gonna change. That being said, if you're reading this, and you're guilty of always having your say in someones life, just let them do it. Let them go after whatever they are going after. Here's why...
It's Their Life
For some reason it seems to be a tough thing for people to grasp... Let people do their life. If people succeed you're happy for them. If they fail, You're sad for them. Either way, whatever happens, It's not your fault. When you tell people not to do something, and they end up going through with it- and they fail, it's mega awkward. I know because I've been in the position on both sides of it. Been the failure, and friend of the person, and either side sucks. How about this scenario... You know someone is more likely to fail in something by doing it, you applaud them for going for their passion. They end up failing... When you see them, you continue to build their belief, and they feel more comfortable talking with you because you've believed in them before, you'll believe in them again.
What about Extreme circumstances?
Alright Turbo... Hang on. We all know... If your said friend is doing some serious dumb in their life like jumping off a building while hammered, doing hard drugs, in an abusive relationship, or making SERIOUS errors in the decision making field, by all means, be that friend to hopefully shake them free... I had that moment one time and didn't do it and it haunted me for years... The night before my brother Dustin passed away, I came home from a dance and saw him out hanging in his car, and KNEW he was doing stupid stuff, even right then and there. I honked at him and gave him a little wave, but what was I going to do? stop him? I didn't.. In fact, I thought to myself ehhhh I'm not one to talk... It's not like all my crap is together. It wasn't. Really I still to this day know that I didn't make the best decision... The next morning after I left the house, getting called back, following the ambulance to the hospital and watching the end come too, it was damn hard. It crushed me knowing that I could have possibly been the person to help make a change before that happened. Extenuating circumstance... And even then. He had his choices in life. His success path, and a path of failure. Sadly, he chose the latter, and it crushed a lot of my family and friends for a long time. Could I have helped? Maybe. Again, even in EXTENUATING CIRCUMSTANCES, you can't blame yourself for the failures of others. As well, you can't take peoples successes on yourself, though you should surely pat yourself on the back if you have been the help mate. All in all, when you are in extenuating circumstances as described, by all means, be the friend or family you should be. Step up to the plate and shake the crap out of them until they see the light! haha, whatever you've got to do! I wish I could have... When it's not extenuating circumstances.... SHUT YOUR MOUTH!
Maybe Thumpers Mom was Right...?
Yeah, the "If You don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" quote from the beloved BAMBI. Love me my Disney... Anyway- I've got heaps of examples on this. Lets start locally, one thing that is prevalent with me because of loving freedom to do the things I like to do... Ok so Example one oh one... ;) I Love Network Marketing. I've failed in most of them I do after a year or so, mostly just because I don't like working... but I sincerely love the model of Network marketing. NOW STOP! Already, you looked at it and thought, uhhhhh Network Marketing.... Lame......... Because, people talk so much crap on it. Or maybe you did one? Probably half heartedly to be honest though right?! Oh you did your best?! Me too. Not all suck. Not all are bad products. A lot of people make a lot of money from them! A lot of them change peoples health, confidence, the ability to spend time with family, the ability to only have to work one full time job and not 2 or 3, gives them a sense of purpose, and to others it gives them an out to something they hate doing on a day to day basis. So......
"Shut, sh, sh, shut your mouth.." -Will Ferrel
1st of all, network marketing, is just like capitalism in good ol USA. you don't like it? stop working for someone... Ever heard of Amazon? Did you know that you can sign up to make 10% on everything you sell for them on their site?! Pretty rad right?! That's what all Network Marketing companies do. "But someone makes all the money at the top..." so does your boss... What do you do for work? "I'm a banker..." "I work as an orthodontist assistant" "I work for a rad construction company..." "I work for a great summer sales company..." You know who's making the most coin from your work? The guy at the top. We all don't have a problem with these companies because #1- a lot of them at least pay you hourly. #2 You get to visit an office that makes you feel official. #3 They're a big company Duhhhh. #4 they aren't network marketing.
Here's the Truth
The structure of a Network Marketing business is beautiful. You help, you get kick back and freebies too. It's rad. You can do part or full time. For example, I'm working in one part time with my wife Taylor in a company called "Le-Vel" and YES we freakin love their products. In fact, We were just customers for 5 months before we even attempted to do the business side of it. The stuff was rad, it helped me to feel like I was back on my "Focus Meds" I was on for a while, except I didn't hate my life and not want to eat... in fact, I started to get hungrier and if I don't eat, I just burrrrn. I love it! Always energized too. ( truthfully wouldn't have even started the biz side if someone hadn't asked for our help a couple times) sooooo we helped and kinda roped ourselves in haha. Annnnd they had this 100% commission match that rolled through the end of April, and i didn't want to miss out on the extra cash opportunity to be honest... ha- Truth is it's been great! The people we work with are unique and we get to learn from a whole group of people different to us and we love it. But I'm tired as hell of hearing people say
You mean a Pyramid Scheme?
Yeahhhhhp... Just like pyramid scheme with the president, vice president, onnnnnn down to the little cleaner boys in the building you see down the street from you... Pyramid down...... People fail at network marketing because they don't want to do them. Most of the time, that's probably legitimately the case. I have however been in one where THE BUSINESS as a whole failed... They had "some" products, but it was a service and subscription based one that was all about "traveling and making money!" yeah... I think the most I made in it was like $300 in a month, and the top dude up and bailed with all the cash to South America haha- sucks right?! So how do you avoid the crap ones like that? Don't do a service... Only do a product based one... Plus commissions are usually better anyway. They are built on a product that is made to better someones health, someones house, someones something... Not just an "idea" that would be cool if people maybe got on board, tossed a few hundred bucks a month at it and wished for the best on the growing side... (just fyi, the one we are now in was free to sign up when we decided to do the biz side of things, but we had gotten our product for free before then just by referring two peeps which was rad...) anyway back to the thoughts here. Just stop ripping on Network Marketing or MLM's as a whole. No one tells you your job is BS so stop ripping others for doing theres. ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE IN UTAH, SHUT UP! haha learn to coexist, or just join one already. Then if you hate it, don't do it! There's a reason I'm not continuing working at my favorite restaurant WINGERS... Yeahhhh I worked at good Ol Wingers in high school. It was bitchin. Discounts on wings? Free Salad? it was a delight. Anyway, stop with the crap talk on things you don't know much about. Allow your friends to do what they want if you don't like it.. Same rhetoric as above. Next Thought...
POLITICS...
Guys and Girls. Our President is Donald Trump. Whether you literally hate him or love him, that shouldn't be the basis of what you feel about another person and determine your friendship or not. STOP IT. Duuuuude I've had to take several breaks from my beloved memes and funny videos on social media just to avoid all the BS with politics. It's getting pretty old. Stop listening to your celebrity friends. Just believe what you like, and let others like theirs. When you think by saying something you're literally going to dumbfound someone and change their mind---- THINK AGAIN. Maybe remember the saying-
"Someone Convinced against their will, is of the Same opinion still." In other words, they're probably not going to change. Same rhetoric we had above- Let them fail in their thought. I've literally changed my mind on subjects several times. You probably will too, and so will they. People change. It's ok to be different if not. It's nice! So appreciate your friends for having a different view from you. Allow yourself to Love people for the difference.
Dating...
Why is dating on this list?... I'm married why Do I care?.. Because for some reason, I hear about it probably 20 times in a week. Haha- GUYS, stop being pansies and be a bit traditional! Call a girl and take her out! Tell her you think she's pretty and have a motive other than getting into ones panties. GIRLS- accept an invitation and stop playing the card of "ohhh I have so much going on..." when really you're afraid of commitment, and think that one date means that you're going to get married tomorrow and not be able to chase your dreams. Lastly-
Love Happens, So Let It
I've said that crap a lot. Because it's true. Both, girls and guys alike, stop being afraid of love... That's the one thing in this world we are lacking big time right now... Love. Love is Good. Sometimes dating leads to the best of friendships, and I still hold some of those friendships from people I dated close to heart. Don't be afraid to make long lasting relationships... IF it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Don't drop yourself because of it. It's cool to have friends. Friends are nice. It's still Love. Love Thy Neighbor ehhhh?!
In Closing...
Let people live their life. And You should Live yours. Don't be afraid to take that job you've always wanted. Don't be afraid to quit the one you've hated, to try new things, to go for gold, or do whatever the hell you want. Also, be ok with failure. You yourself, and other people. Failures happen everyday, and yeahhhh We all wanna win, and FREAKIN GO FOR IT! You should win! When you do fall... Don't beat yourself up. Get up, and keep going. Ask someone out, do something new, with someone new. When you see the next political post you don't agree with, just keep scrolling... No one likes a keyboard warrior, unless it's an open forum of courrrrrse. In the end of all this, if it helped you to do one thing, hopefully you understand people a bit better, and can be more appreciative that people do things different, think different and will most likely always not be you! Which is great, because that's why You're not them,
You're You!
Much Love Mi Amigos.
