After a couple SOBERING Weeks- I felt like sharing some thoughts might be good. Soooo Enjoi.
QUOTES With Meaning
"Love is Only a Feeling"
First of all- False and Not true. My thought Stems from the Quote: "One sees clearly Only with the Heart. Anything Essential is invisible to the Eyes." A quote recently recited by President Uchtdorf- a Latter Day Apostle. The real way to go about life in my opinion is really if something doesn't feel right, don't do it. And the same is true, if something feels right- for me personally anyway I've gotta stick with it, or do it. The song by the band The Darkness- "Love is Only a Feeling" - is so TRUE! But the wording of ONLY, sounds Negative... Love IS a Feeling. Yes I'm no pro on Love, (Based on Results of me being Single) but Love is something for the Heart. Of course you can show your Love and everyone likes to feel Love differently like the 5 languages of Love. Truth also, you can see how people really feel because Actions always speak louder than words. Yet, it stems from the initial feelings, NOT JADED, Not taken from others words, But YOUR PERSONAL Feelings. "Go with Your Gut Feeling" is a common phase- "Just do what feels good, or natural" is another great one. Super simple yet, we think "Ok if I want to make an educated and accurate decision in life with love.... I'm gonna need to calculate FREAKIN ROCKET SCIENCE!!!" Ok, save yourself some time... FEEL it out. If it doesn't work out, it's only because YOU and the OTHER PERSON didn't work out together and weren't the best for each other. BUT WAIT, "We were in Love!" --- Dearest Friends... Being in Love doesn't mean that it only happens once... Think of Elementary, think of Middle School, High School, or your first year of College. You've claimed to be in Love so many times! Sometimes the other person may not be completely sold on you like you are to them, but when it does happen you're thinkin YES! It's Happening! Sometimes it does, yet for the first few go around's it doesn't. Love Happens, don't cheat it, Just let it Happen. Hearts are made to be broken, and like my boy Bob Marley said, "You just gotta find the ones worth Suffering For." Feel It Out. It feels good, go with it! It might not work out, but You'll be grateful you did in the Long run. I've learned from everyone I've ever been with, and I'm grateful for everyone that has been that role in my life. Stoked to find the one "Worth Suffering For."
Dating is......
Rocket Science... FALSE. Yet people make it so. Really though and it's all because people DON'T want to Be Real?! People say they want a REAL man or a REAL Woman, BULLLLLL!!! How frustrating is it that people INSIST on including GAMES and BullCRAPPPPP! Man ALIVE! Sooooo Over it! Ha- People LETS MAKE A FREAKIN CHANGE!
"I Colton, Have a Dream! That Black People, White People, Asian People and all Other Peeps in the world, can Be HONEST and upfront with Each Other! That if they FEEL something good for someone, They'll be honest! And the receiver of it will be grateful and RECOGNIZE it and share their recognition with the person who gave it to them, whether they like the person back or not! AND NOT START IT WITH GAMES! 'Playing Hard to Get' Being one of those games, hence the word "Playing" - yes it's a game. I have a DREAM that People will be more honest with others When they AREN'T Interested in someone also! The Dream is that People will stop lying about going out on a date with someone, that they won't lie to bail on a date, that We all together will stop ignoring each other and giving the silent treatment as to say "I'm not Interested" and trying to give hints. Stop giving HINTS! Just tell them, HEY - I'm just not interested. Or, "hey you know what Tomorrow Night isn't looking good for me to go out, nor is there any night. We probably should stick to being friends."
Wow that's so hurtful right? NO! It's not! It's honest! Because when you lie and say, OK TOMORROW, ok can't anymore TOMORROW THOUGH! it pulls heart strings and gets people thinking you are interested a little because YOU ARE MAKING EFFORT to hang with them for the future. Don't do that anymore. Freak! It just happened to me recently! Was talking for a bit with someone being wayyyyy cool to each other, planned to go out, things didn't work out and I got the "OK TOMORROW! FOR SURE!" Then of course the silent treatment followed- no recognition at all. REAL Shady friends. It hurts your feelings! If you are afraid to go out with someone because you don't know them, suggest something simple and easy and something you can genuinely get to know them through. Just be Honest! PLEASE! If you have recently had your heart broken, you know how bad it sucks to feel like you are hanging by a rope, and it's the SAME feeling for those you put on hold by IGNORING Them and playing silent games with. It's not cool, and it's not Christian at all. Man, we cut people off from us so easy in this life. What if in the future they need you but can't have you as help? As someone to talk too? As someone of reference? Why can't you end as friends? Yes, you boldly end the dating side of it by saying, I JUST WANT TO BE FRIENDS. For you it's harder, but for the other person it's actually easier that way. It gives a quick ending. When you are HONEST it makes a world of a difference for people. Honesty and Integrity are in my opinion, two of the worlds, especially the USA, biggest struggles. Ridiculous. Just be upfront and honest. Be more selfless! PLEASE be more selfless. Forget yourself.
"Example is better than Perception" - Colton's Fortune Cookie
What a Killer Fortune Cookie right?! It goes in with everything I just talked about. DOING. BEING. It's saying that What YOU DO, is more important than what you think happened or what you can conjure up a thought of WHY you are ok to do what you do. It's Called Rationalizing which means that you LIE to have the benefit in your court. Yet, you're only lying to yourself. And people notice it. Trust me, people Notice it. I guess what I'm tired of is people pretending in the world. I'm tired of people acting like nothing bad happens at their hand and that they are initially Jesus. Admit your faults. Be the Bigger Person, 100% of the time! If everyone were accountable, mannnnnn it would be nice. With your friends, admit you're wrong, a jerk, a skeez, over the top, whatever! In Dating and Relationships, Take the blame, be more kind, say sorry first, be FIRST to do what's right. If people were all jumping to do so, the only thing we'd be fighting over is really who said or did good first. I'm tired of the hurt people ensue on others. I'm tired of the hurt people place on themselves. I'm tired of people not caring enough. Apathy is the worlds biggest killer Right Now. It's all over the place and I'm tired of Apathy. It's getting old that people give up or give in. It would be cool if people were themselves, yet with a lot more love. With a lot more giving, and a lot more selflessness. To all that are reading this, I'm sorry for ever wronging you, playing games, being dishonest or even not upfront- still dishonest. I am a student of self improvement, soooo I'm kinda changing all the time, or at least trying to do so. I'm a work in progress, This kid here isn't perfect, and I know it. Everyone wants Love. If you are the example of Love around, people will see it and pass it on. Guaranteed. Be the Example that people are receiving, not the thought you're perceiving. Know that "What your mind can perceive, the heart can Achieve." - Walt Disney
Yepppp More Mind Vomit. Thanks For Indulging in My Novels and Incomplete scrambled thoughts. Hence the name SOBERING THOUGHTS.
