Most of the time people come into the new year with the hopes that Setting tons of unrealistic
New Year Resolutions, AKA Goals will change the world for them! Problem is, they forget to leave certain things behind. When planting a garden or flowers for that matter, you need to get rid of all weeds so that they don't overtake the garden. Similar to this universal principle, you
Gotta get rid of all the crap in your life!
Of all the jokes that go after the new year, one that sticks out is when people say (the day after the new year)
"That was so... (2014,2013,2012)" So as for things that are "So 2014" here's a list of things that you can personally
Cut Out of Your Life
#1 Stop Criticizing Everything via Social Media/ The Internet
Now I myself love to learn about things going on in the world/ the nation via social media. I love it! The Problem is not that I'm looking at it, or that we are looking at it, whether it be the news, politics, sports, blogs, or whatever- the problem is many seek for the opportunity to critique and tear down anyone who differs in opinion. Feedback is one thing, trust me I really do feel it important to leave "Feedback" but stuff like "WOW That was stupid" or "You are the reason this country is in the pooper" or "Your mom should have aborted you" or anything else that is just a straight DOUCHE move, pretty much
NOT OK at all. It's really getting Old. This is also called
TROLLING and it really needs to stop. People just sit on their computers, look up YouTube videos and stuff on FB or Twitter, and just Rip people apart! Why? Why is it that instead of just exiting out of things we don't like, we NEED to put some sort of emphasis on hatred and making sure the writer, or other readers of opinions get to see how much you dislike a certain thing or the other? Why do we do that? Now I understand drama sells, but make it the drama of heart ache or something that actually matters, not bull crap. Stop spreading
Negativity there really is no reason to go out of your way with spreading crap like that. "Look how dumb so and so is!" or "I can't believe how big of a *********** ********** explicitive explicative explicative..." Stop it. I get emails on a daily, STILL about my proposal video and how stupid I, or my wife is for doing what we did and how thoughtless and dumb we must be. Ha, what the crap?! My friends accomplishments, people rip on them? Why? Stop doing that crap. Stop the negativity. What they look like, do for a living, and feel like on a day to day basis is pretty much their life, you should leave it to them. Whether they are black, white, spanish, asian, whatever! Which leads to my next thing we should Leave in 2014.
#2 Stop Race baiting, Religion Bashing, and Ragging on ones Political Stance
I mean, really, come on friends. This among many things REALLY needs to be "So 2014." Pulling the race card, or race baiting only promotes racism. Let it go for real, it's getting beyond old, like Revolutionary War old. There's all sorts of races world wide, and there are all good people in each and every one of them. There are groups of people both white, black, yellow, brown, orange, and kiwi that have bummer people and motives in them- and yeah we should hope to get rid of those "groups" but never ever ever is it ok to put down the absolute race of someone.
JUST STOP IT - Stop saying rude things, or basing history on why people should be treated the way they are. It's
NOT OK anymore. It really never was, and I would hope everyone is truly "over it."
And the RELIGION BASHING is also getting old. Whether you are Christian, Jewish, non denominational, spiritual, not spiritual, non affiliated, atheist or whatever you claim your inner you to be-
Stop Ripping on Others beliefs. Now me being a very religious/ spiritual person, I am beyond over the bashing of religions. People call others "Ignorant" "Stupid" "mislead" and many other things, because "It's the reason for all/ most wars" or "Religion is evil and really ruins humanity" and yet on the other side, I see so many different religions, leaving their own homes to help so many across the nation and the entire world. Stop bashing on everyones religion. It's different then yours? Great! If you want to share yours with them, and share why you love yours, go for it! It's promoting positivity, but to sit there and Rack on how STUPID and how DUMB one religion is, just promotes yet again
Negativity. YOU and WE need to stop it. Just let people have comfort in believing or not believing how they please. And then there's people in America and their
Political Stance. It's amazing to me to hear my friends and family (on the republican side, the democrat side, and liberal side) all tearing on another down and saying how stupid the other is. I mean, really lets split it into thirds, and if only One is smart, truly you think 2/3 of the country is STUPID? You're really that much smarter than everyone? You're that much better? Unfortunately, I can see good in all of them, it's too bad there isn't some sort of opportunity to put someone in office that can please all parties. There isn't, and there is always going to be people who are bummed at whoever is in office, there is always going to be people who hate who is in the GOP, and there are always going to be people who disagree. Fine, disagree, give feedback, but
STOP with the tearing comments of YOU ARE STUPID, you are DUMB I can't (explicative) Believe YOU explicative explicative explicative... and so on... this also really needs to be "So 2014."
#3 The way that People Date
I finally got myself out of the dating world, God Bless! Whoo! That was a whirlwind in time. So dishonest, so deceitful, rude, misleading, and truly uncommitted.
Lets Hang Out instead of saying
"Hey wanna go out?" or just being honest and telling someone that you are interested in them instead of playing it off like you Don't care about them. Beyond frustrating when I was in the dating scene to be on the receiving end where girls would play the "Yeah whatever, I don't care" card, and yet be bugged when I'd stop talking to them, like "Wait, Why did you stop talking to me?" then girls pull the bull crap card of "Guys are jerks, all they want is to hook up and then bounce" - It might look that way! I personally know LOTS of guys who truly are looking for a lady, yet when they kiss a girl or whatever, they then have to
PRETEND they don't care, not text them, and DEFINITELY don't call the person for a bit.
What the Hell has happened??? Really? We have to Play "Games" with one another because if we use any type of committed gestures at all, it probably for sure will scare the opposite sex away, because they are "CLINGY" for being interested and might "LIKE" you? BULL crap! I mean literally makes me want to yell explicative explicative explicative explicative explicative!!! Why do we do this?! Now I see it even more so, because I'm on the outside looking in, My wife and I set up people pretty regularly, and people do not have the guts to tell people what they think, so they play a game until it fizzles out and isn't worth it anymore. Wanna know how people get into relationships? They risk saying things, doing things, and allowing things to happen. It's called
commitment and I know it sounds farfetched and probably scary compared to the very "non committal" gestures we so often use so that if something better comes up we don't have to give it up. Holy explicative explicative explicative!!!! We really do that wayyyy to much. It's beyond getting old. I was over that when I was in Freaking high school. Alta High was full of the non committal voicings like "Yeah I might be able too..." Followed by some sort of bull response to save you so you don't have to for sure. Or how about "Hey wanna do something this weekend?" (First of all it's the weekend and you're single... So any excuse to not hang with someone or go out with someone, is probably going to be a lie if not a committed "YES") but alas, "Well, I don't think I have (something that is a complete cop out) this weekend so I should be good!" - First off, it doesn't make you sound important, all that does is make the person you're talking too feel Less important. Stop! It makes people feel dumb when they Go out of their
comfort zone to ask you out, or to see if you want to do something.
GUYS Stop lying to girls, stop telling them lies about what you do, who you wish you were, and how you don't have time in a day to do something for them/ with them.
LADIES Stop making excuses. Your girlfriends aren't going to abandon you because you went out on a date this weekend. Allow yourself to commit to something, and stop copping out to go do "NOTHING" over the weekend, that you and your friends say "OMG BEST WEEKEND EVER!" because no one got thrown up on at the most recent party. Being single is fun, it was a party, and it should be enjoyed- but when you go out of the zone and start boobing about how there is no one out there,
take a look at yourself - Hooking up via tinder a lot? Just mack daddying and bouncing? Lying? Making Plans on top of plans already made? Stop it. Start dating more traditionally, it's amazing how you personally change and become better by allowing yourself to make and keep commitments in life. Non committal gestures, lies, deceits, false plans upon plans, bailing out, no shows, and playing games need to stick in 2014.
#4 The Marriage/ Relationship Games, Not Communicating
This one goes out to all the married couples, and or will be soon, or are in a serious Committed relationship. Now I'm no professional in the art of a marriage. No No No. I'm in my first year, AKA
The Hardest Year - and I'm sure there are a lot of people who understand the Marriage thing QUITE a bit better than I do, and I don't doubt that and I do understand that. Here are a few things, I have recognized that need to start happening, and STOP happening. Ladies and Gents. Stop holding a score card. You know what I'm talking about. Stop starting
Nothing Fights and be grown up enough to recognize that they are NOTHING. Literally about Nothing. Dane Cook has a funny skit where he talks about witnessing the infamous "Nothing Fight" while in a grocery store. Guy wanted jelly, and girl didn't want jelly. It's pretty crude humor, but there really is a good thing or two to learn of it. What usually happens in a Nothing fight, DIFFERING OPINIONS. Well goodness, it's a good thing you have two differing opinions! You won't always get what you want, but you'll probably get the best of both worlds! Allow yourself to be wrong, try something new, and do something you don't always want to do. It's pretty simple actually, just let the small stuff roll on. It's really all small stuff. (OK of course we have our things that do matter, we all know what those are) But what TV show you want to watch, and who thinks what is good and what isn't, the food you could eat, the fact the bed wasn't made, the toilet seat was left up, or that people just seem to NOT want to get along. Just get along. Be humble enough to just take a deep breathe and let it ride, it's ok. Just be ok. Give in. Nothing fights are about Nothing anyway. Leave the Nothing Fights in 2014... Also,
STOP BEING SELFISH - Start being sweet to your Women, guys. Figure out the things that make them crazy happy and just do it. Do the laundry, clean up the house every once in a while, leave them notes on their car, bring them flowers, or food, or candy, make them dinner, take them out, tell them what they did to their hair looks good, tell them they're beautiful, hot or pretty, tell them their legs are nice, compliment until you're blue in the face, do something different. Just change for the better. And honestly, for the "glue" of your house purposes, make sure they are always
taken care of FIRST! You know what I'm talking about. Want them to be happy with your love life? Make sure they are always #1. Don't let it change either. As for the Women, Take care of your MAN! He just wants to feel like a man. Build him up, we need to hear it. Us mama's boys don't have our mom around to tell us we are the worlds greatest, so we look to you for that. We need to be told we are a MAN. We need to feel it too. Come up and give us a big ol' wet one! Squeeze us tight! Compliment our bodies, tell us we did great at work, and be interested in what we do. Validate the things that make us "Manly" - and tell us thanks, and recognize what we do. Playing things off like it's just how it's suppose to be is overrated. Pretending like you "Just Deserve It" is ungrateful, and doesn't serve either party. (the being grateful part goes for guys as well) We need to say thanks more, and reward each other more. And Ladies "Take care" of your man. You know again what I mean. You really want the world in your hands? Men will always be more willing to take care of you, go out of their way to do things for you, and be a better man for you, when you "take care of them" - it just is what it is. It's a gift from God! The practice of procreation and making love is God Given, (of course I personally believe this should be your husband or wife, that makes it even more special) but it is not a bad thing, and it isn't something to hold out from your husband or wife. Give them love. We all need it. Stop withholding your love. Ladies, you want the guys to be more lovey dovey with you, so you tend to hold back on giving them love, NO. Stop that. Tell them what you need. It's a rad concept called COMMUNICATION. Just communicate. Take responsibility, and make sure you are giving if not more than you are receiving. "You Can have anything you want in life, as long as you're willing to give enough other people what they want first." Be willing to give. Be selfless. Be responsible. Being rude to your wife/ Husband is a TV fictional game. Stop it. Being good to your spouse/ partner is so 2015.
#5 Stop Denying your Personal Responsibility
More than half of the problems going on in the world today have something to do with a lack of personal responsibility. I've blogged about "CHANGING YOURSELF" quite a few times. It's somewhat of a necessity in life. It's the cause to fixing all the things I listed in #1-4. It solves the problems of the world if we all just take a look at what we aren't doing and step up. It changes the world when we look at ourself and accept our misdoings as well, and make the change. It's not a new concept. This again is a universal principle. Some call it repentance, some call it fixing, and simply put just change. Just change it up. Stop being irresponsible, stop lacking responsibility as a whole. If you screw up, fix it! It's not the end of the world. There's really only a few things that can't be righted so easily, taking someones life being probably the top of that. Most other things should be looked at as stubbing their toe, bonking your head, or biting your tongue. All of those things when you do them seem like the world is going to end for a moment in time! It's the worst 3-5 seconds of your entire life!!! Then it's over... Or it wrecks your day. You end up in a bad mood, everything and everyone is against you and the world stops spinning! Really though, you just stubbed your toe. It's ok. Same with your mistakes. Look at them as such and just fix it. Don't dwell on it for days. Stop letting people ruin your day, and if you may have helped ruin someone else's,
take responsibility say sorry and fix it. Just change it. People so often say, "well, it is what it is", and "what's done is done." Yes, but right your wrong, don't leave a mess. Just buck up and fix your mistakes. In the work place, right your wrongs. In relationships, right your wrongs, and please for the sake of your relationship move passed it. In your personal life, fix your problems and move on. It's not healthy to stay in a negative place. Your day doesn't need to be wrecked, nor should it be. Just
Take Personal Responsibility and move along. Things are so much easier when we all take a fall for our own mistakes. Stand up.
In Setting goals for your 2015 resolutions, I hope you resolve what's already been done, and make sure you're ready for the good you really want in your life. Then go out there and make 2015 your explicative explicative explicative...
